This may include but is not limited to: Isolation is a form of abuse often closely connected to controlling behaviors.
It is not an isolated behavior, but the outcome of many kinds of abusive behaviors.
Isolation often begins as an expression of their love for the victim with statements like, “if you really loved me you would want to spend time with me, not your family”.
As it progresses, the isolation expands, limiting or excluding their contact with anyone but the batterer.
Self-isolation may also develop from fear of public humiliation or from fear of harm to themselves or others.
The victim may also feel guilty for the abuser’s behavior, the condition of the relationship, or a myriad of other reasons, depending on the messages received from the abuser.
I thought I was too smart to get involved with someone who would hurt me physically and mentally.
I thought I knew what to look for and that it would be so obvious that I needed to walk away.
He threw the car into park, and turned to face me with a look of pure rage. It was after midnight, and I got out of the car, numb and overwhelmingly ashamed, and walked a mile back to my friend's house as he squealed the tires and raced away from me. It was the first of many lies I would tell about my relationship. I could feel his gaze on me as he wrote a prescription for a painkiller and muscle relaxers. "You're lucky you didn't break it." Later that week, I was in a golf cart with a colleague at a client event, wearing a short-sleeved shirt with a collar.
His fist connected with the left side of my jaw, the right side of my head hit the passenger-side window, and I heard a loud . He grabbed my hair and pinched my arm, bruising it instantly, and then he reached over and squeezed my throat. Two days later, I drove myself to an urgent care facility when I couldn't move my neck. I reached over to grab a water bottle, and the bruises on my upper arm were exposed.